Have you ever noticed traits or behaviours about other people that you don’t like? They could be simple things that they do… but they do them often… and it then starts to bug you or grate on your nerves. There are so many things that people do, or do not do, that can really irritate us. And when we look closely at them, it’s these traits or the actions that they take or in some cases the actions that they don’t take, that really begins to annoy us. It’s not necessarily the person themselves – but more about what they did. In The Genius Code™ podcast, I explain how these traits are to be taken as feedback to ourselves and why they’re so important.
In the “We Are All Mirrors” episode, Paul Davis delves into this concept further. He suggests that the traits we dislike in others often reflect aspects of ourselves. When someone’s behavior irritates us, it acts as a mirror, highlighting something within us that we may need to address.
For instance, if a colleague’s constant interruptions bother you, it might indicate your own struggle with patience or the need to assert boundaries. Recognizing this can lead to personal growth. Instead of solely blaming the other person, we can ask ourselves why this behavior affects us so deeply.
Davis emphasizes the importance of self-reflection. By examining our reactions, we gain insights into our unresolved issues or insecurities. This process allows us to understand ourselves better and fosters personal development. Moreover, he points out that our perceptions are subjective. What irritates one person might go unnoticed by another. This subjectivity suggests that the irritation stems more from our internal state than external behavior. By viewing others as mirrors, we can transform annoyance into an opportunity for self-improvement. Instead of harboring resentment, we can appreciate these moments as valuable feedback.
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